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So. Um. Huh.


This is not an entry I particularly wanted to write, but since it'd be weird if I didn't--I record so many details of my life, and it'd be pretty obvious eventually if I was leaving it out--it looks like James and I are splitting.

Yeah, kinda sucks.

We're doing a trial seperation first. It's all very amicable and almost desperately congenial, nobody's really at fault, but, well....we had a bunch of good years, we got each other's careers started, and I've got no regrets. Still, we're both obsessive workaholics, and after awhile we just grew apart. We're great partners on the practical stuff, but eventually that's not gonna keep stuff going. So we'll take a few months, get the finances worked out, and I'll find a place of my own and...guess we'll see where life takes us after that. I'm not sure if I can make a living on my own on art and writing, but I'll give it a damn good try, and more than that, one cannot expect from life.

I'm alternating between calm and wrecked, as one might expect. Still, I'm taking it pretty well. The nice thing about the axe falling is that you're not worrying about whether the axe is going to fall.

So...well, there we are.

Funny the way life goes, sometimes. But as Grandma used to say--"This, too, shall pass."

To the best, whatever it may entail.

I'm so very sorry. Best wishes for you both.

Aww, man. I don't have anything to say other than what's been said over a hundred times already. It sucks, and I'm sorry it's happening. And good luck and thoughts.


::hugs:: Sorry to hear that. But I'm not good at this sort of thing, so I'll leave it at that.

Like many other people, I am startled by the news, but I want to offer my sympathies to both of you; I glad that at least the separation has been an amicable one.

Having both witnessed and been a part of this sort of thing (and, in my case, also having come full circle -- my girlfriend and I, after parting more-or-less amicably several years ago, have reunited and will shortly be getting married), I know better than to predict what the future will hold, but I hope that your respective paths will lead you where you need to go. Best wishes.

p@ (a deep bow with a flourish),

Oh, damn.

I hope the two of you can work things out for the best. *hugs*

Your announcement has generated my "worried face" and an intense desire to ply you with tea and sympathetic back-rubs in an effort to make the world a slightly better place for you. Being in a different part of the country all I can actually do (even if you wanted a stranger's tea...) is add my voice to that of the many, many people who care for you: sympathy and best wishes.

My condolences. If it helps, more people have commented on your news than are on my flist, so you clearly have lots of people who care about you both and will be there for you.

Of course, I now worry about the last remaining couple to be in the D&D campaign!


Best of luck.

Also, this may be a bit... overly pragmatic for the moment, but if you had a 'striking out on my own' print run (similar to your 'I need a root canal' sketch sale of a few years ago), I'd love to contribute. Or a cafepress book of interesting bits of writing. Or something. You have a lot of talent, and while I like enjoying that gratis via your LJ, I'm also more than willing to shell out, particularly if you're in a tight spot.


My respect and sympathy for you.

One bit of advice I can offer, based on personal experience. During the time when you are settling in on your own, try to pay at least a little attention to eating healthily. It's all too easy to find yourself subsisting on caffeine, junk food, and occasional takeout, particularly when you don't have a 9 to 5 job forcing your schedule. The resulting strung-out debilitation can be less than helpful when trying to put your life back together 8-/.

Good luck. If you are ever nearby and interested, I'll bake you one of my homemade pizzas 8-).


This is exactly the one bit of advice I had to offer. As it is, I'll just say "me too", along with "best wishes to both of you for good clues and good judgment".

Woah... didn't see that one... Best wishes and strength to you both. *hugs* You take care of you.

I'm very, very sorry to hear that. I think it's wise that you two are taking it slowly instead of jumping to any difficult decisions; taking it one day at the time and living in the present helps when the future is unclear. I hope everything works out for the best for both parties.

I think this is a time where some Ben Hugs would be of comfort. :)

Never met you, being an ocean away, but yet it makes me sad to read this.

All the best wishes to the both of you... all the best wishes.


I'm so sorry Ursula. I, too, enjoyed hearing about your life and times and love seeing your art and hearing your stories. I hope you can work things out, and best of luck to the both of you. Take care of yourself, too.

Hard stuff. My ex-aunt by marriage still comes to our Thanksgiving because her and my uncle just found themselves growing apart but not mad at each other so I know it is not all bad, but still hard stuff.

And I agree with your grandmother.