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So. Um. Huh.

Well.

This is not an entry I particularly wanted to write, but since it'd be weird if I didn't--I record so many details of my life, and it'd be pretty obvious eventually if I was leaving it out--it looks like James and I are splitting.

Yeah, kinda sucks.

We're doing a trial seperation first. It's all very amicable and almost desperately congenial, nobody's really at fault, but, well....we had a bunch of good years, we got each other's careers started, and I've got no regrets. Still, we're both obsessive workaholics, and after awhile we just grew apart. We're great partners on the practical stuff, but eventually that's not gonna keep stuff going. So we'll take a few months, get the finances worked out, and I'll find a place of my own and...guess we'll see where life takes us after that. I'm not sure if I can make a living on my own on art and writing, but I'll give it a damn good try, and more than that, one cannot expect from life.

I'm alternating between calm and wrecked, as one might expect. Still, I'm taking it pretty well. The nice thing about the axe falling is that you're not worrying about whether the axe is going to fall.

So...well, there we are.

Funny the way life goes, sometimes. But as Grandma used to say--"This, too, shall pass."


Ouch. Er...what?

::hugs:: (if you want 'em)

Joining the chorus to say that I'm sorry to hear that, but sometimes the right thing isn't the easy one. Having just helped a close friend go through a divorce... I totally understand the alternating feelings. Good luck.

Damn. Let us know if there's anything we can do to help.

Yeah, that does kinda suck. I'm glad that things are amicable, but I'm secretly hoping that the trial separation will send you running back to each other.

I wish you the very best in wherever things take you from here.

I'm sorry to hear that, even amicable separations are always difficult and awkward. I hope evrything works out for the best, whatever the best may be.

Oh dear, well I wish you the very best of luck in making it on your own with the art and writing.

Do you get to keep the cats?

Actually, they'll split up too. They still don't like each other, and Athena has always worshipped James, so they'll be happier this way. I will probably keep Ben, or depending on what happens, send him to live with my folks.

Wow. I'm sorry. Realizing it's for the best doesn't make it easier, I know. Keep it as public or private as you want; your fans and friends are there for you regardless.

Been there, done that, wouldn't wish it on anybody.
You're Grandma is right. Remember that.

Wow. I'm so sorry you're going through this. You (and James) have my best wishes.

Crap. I'm sorry. Hope everything works out.

Ouch, that sucks. I'd add to the chorus of "hope everything works out," but I wasn't quite raised that way. ^^

My mom always told me, "Love isn't something that just happens or doesn't, it needs to be cultivated and nurtured."

Good luck though, whatever happens.

-Raeliyah, lurker

Wow... *hugs*

But it's great that you're looking on the positive side, since these things usually happen for the best.

Good luck I hope you stay ok!

:(

I am sorry to read that. A divorce is never cause for celebration.

"A divorce is never cause for celebration."

Oh I can think of scenarios where it is, just not this one.

I'm not sure if I can make a living on my own on art and writing, but I'll give it a damn good try, and more than that, one cannot expect from life.

I think you've got a really good shot at doing exactly that. There's not just the Legion of Internet Fans: there's the agent who was overjoyed that you weren't represented yet because that meant /she/ got you, there's at least one publisher that's happy to have you, and there's the ongoing coolness that is collected Digger putting cash in your pocket. That's not even counting the "real art" stuff.

Cheers. As my closest friend said to me when I did something not at all similar, "I hope everything works out alright, although I'm not certain what that would mean."

I agree here.

I think a finished novel or two, along with the art would get Ursula enough of an advance to stumble on until her readership picked up beyond her wonderful, but limited, internet fan base.

Then I am confident a writing career would take off for her. I work in the industry and I haven't shown her writing to a single person who doesn't like it.