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So. Um. Huh.

Well.

This is not an entry I particularly wanted to write, but since it'd be weird if I didn't--I record so many details of my life, and it'd be pretty obvious eventually if I was leaving it out--it looks like James and I are splitting.

Yeah, kinda sucks.

We're doing a trial seperation first. It's all very amicable and almost desperately congenial, nobody's really at fault, but, well....we had a bunch of good years, we got each other's careers started, and I've got no regrets. Still, we're both obsessive workaholics, and after awhile we just grew apart. We're great partners on the practical stuff, but eventually that's not gonna keep stuff going. So we'll take a few months, get the finances worked out, and I'll find a place of my own and...guess we'll see where life takes us after that. I'm not sure if I can make a living on my own on art and writing, but I'll give it a damn good try, and more than that, one cannot expect from life.

I'm alternating between calm and wrecked, as one might expect. Still, I'm taking it pretty well. The nice thing about the axe falling is that you're not worrying about whether the axe is going to fall.

So...well, there we are.

Funny the way life goes, sometimes. But as Grandma used to say--"This, too, shall pass."


Best of luck Ursula. That's a tough place to be but I'm glad it's amiable. That has a tendancy to make it more like being hit with a wiffleball bat than a baseball slugger.
I'm a slacker and still have your tea. If you still have my email address let me know when is good to send it.

I am truly sorry, Ursula.

Speaking as someone who's going through the divorce/dissolution process right now, I know it feels wretched sometimes, even if amicably done.

Give yourself time to grieve for it -- try not to beat yourself up over it, like I often have -- and remember that you've got an enormous support network that's there for you.

I wish you all the best.

I'm sorry. Big life changes are big life changes, even when they might be the right thing to do. I hope that everything works smoothly.

I'm sorry to hear things weren't working out for you guys. This is never fun (or at least it's never been in my experience) but it comes with its own opportunities for growing. I hope you'll get through it with peace and sanity. *hugs*

...I'm sure you're going to get lots of these, and normally I'd resist the impulse, but you've given me a lot of happy moments with your art (both visual and literary), so I thought I'd try to offer some comfort. Hugs if you want them, and I hope the best for both of you.

I am so sorry! These things are never easy but I hope that it goes as well as it can. Perhaps with some therapy and a little apart time you can see what you once saw in each other and reconcile. Or it was just not meant to be. In that case I hope that it is easy on you.

Good luck.

Oh hells yeah, that sucks. :( I'm sorry to hear that. It's good that it's amicable, though (and "hear, hear" on the axe bit). I wish you both the best of luck.

::checks bank account:: ::frets that there isn't enough money to buy prints to help support the ursulav:: ah, well... someday... ;)

I just came through something very similar to what you are experiencing. For us, we've worked it out, however, I am struggling with overcoming some of the incendiary things that were said in the process. Unfortunately, as we all know, "I'm sorry" doesn't erase anything---if they can bring themselves to say it.

Go with your gut. Look in the mirror, and go with your gut. Deep inside, you know what direction to go.

I've learned the hard way, making your hobby (or your favorite passtime) into your living, can be nice, but then, what do you do for a hobby? My health has been destroyed making my hobby my work.

I'm a new comer, but I'm still sympathetic----and won't mind being used for a wailing wall.

Holding Good Thoughts

Kerry

All due condolences. I haven't been through that, but my wife has. For the sake of your future spouses I wish you an amicable split.


Joining the chorus of wow. I wish you both the best and that you find the places you need to be.

Wow...

Well, if you do move, I hope you'll consider the Bay Area here in California. There's so much to do here and so many good people. You'd be welcomed with open arms and open hearts.

I'm very sorry you and James have to go through this. Please let us know if there's anything we can do. And I mean that.

Oh, wow.. Are you guys splitting up just because the old passion isn't there, or because you've had arguments, or are seeking out other people..? I mean, there has to be more of a reason than just 'it isn't working out'..

I'm just so shocked. Through the years of keeping up with your art and progress in life, I'd have never thought you would get divorced. Your life seemed so storybook grand..

I'm actually shocked at your rudeness more than I am at Ursula making a polite, non-detailed public announcement about an unpleasant occurence in her life. If she wanted everyone to know more, I assume she would've told us.

Both you and James are wonderful people. While I am shocked and saddened to hear of this, I know that sometimes things don't quite work out as planned. Please know that Takaza and I with the both of you all the happiness in the world, however that might be found. Take care of yourself, and we'll keep you in our thoughts.

I am sorry to hear this, Ursula. I hope things stay amicable and that you get sorted out ok. *hugs*

Oh, darling. *hugs* You have my very best wishes and sympathies. I hope that everything works out for both of you.