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So. Um. Huh.

Well.

This is not an entry I particularly wanted to write, but since it'd be weird if I didn't--I record so many details of my life, and it'd be pretty obvious eventually if I was leaving it out--it looks like James and I are splitting.

Yeah, kinda sucks.

We're doing a trial seperation first. It's all very amicable and almost desperately congenial, nobody's really at fault, but, well....we had a bunch of good years, we got each other's careers started, and I've got no regrets. Still, we're both obsessive workaholics, and after awhile we just grew apart. We're great partners on the practical stuff, but eventually that's not gonna keep stuff going. So we'll take a few months, get the finances worked out, and I'll find a place of my own and...guess we'll see where life takes us after that. I'm not sure if I can make a living on my own on art and writing, but I'll give it a damn good try, and more than that, one cannot expect from life.

I'm alternating between calm and wrecked, as one might expect. Still, I'm taking it pretty well. The nice thing about the axe falling is that you're not worrying about whether the axe is going to fall.

So...well, there we are.

Funny the way life goes, sometimes. But as Grandma used to say--"This, too, shall pass."


Much love, Ursula. Good luck!

That.. must be horrible. Amicable as it may be, the awkwardness and inevitable hurt of having it come to that must be... ugh.

*Offers more e-hugs*

I wish you the best, and your grandmother was a very wise woman.

Um. Good luck, then. I'm glad it's not stormy and violent, just... drifting. I presume you've tried to rekindle it; I won't offer suggestions along those lines.

I hope the part of the story you're not telling wasn't horrible and draining to live through.

*laugh* Well, these things are probably always horrible and draining to live through, but no, not excruciatingly so.

My first thought was: "holy shit", even though I only know you through your entries here on lj. I'm so sorry to hear it's not working out. That totally sucks, even if it is for the best. The way you wrote, it seemed like you two got along well, though as you said, merely getting along isn't necessarily enough. Ugh. O.o

My best to both of you. I'm glad that it's going "amicably," and hope that it continues that way. *hug*

One more "sorry" to add to the growing pile.

:(

Oh ack.. I'm so sorry. Strength to both of you.

You both have my condolences, Urs. If you need to talk or need a place to decompress, my ears and my doors are open to you both.

*grin* Thanks, man. Start a D&D campaign, damnit!

oh my... I'm not sure what to say, other than I'm sorry!

Hang in there!... your fans are here for you.

*sends cyber hugs*

Oh, I'm so sorry. That just bites. :( The very best of luck to both of you.

Oh, gosh... I am so sorry to hear this. Best wishes to you both and I hope it all works out to a place both can be contented with. And yeah, your Grandmother is right.

Well, for what it's worth, you seem to have the best of all possible attitudes under the circumstances.

Since I can't offer anything else, being only a peripheral observer to your life through the lens of livejournal, here. I give you an imaginary rock to keep in your pocket. It is thin, about half the size of your palm, and part of one edge is a little sharp, like part broke away as it weathered. There are pits in the surface, and if you just take it out and look at it, the surface seems dull, a flat black without reflection.

But it is heavy in your palm, and when you wrap your fingers around the warmth it can hold for a very long time after spending a bit in the sun seeps out to warm your fingers, and if you slip it in a patch of water, it brings brilliant unexpected patterns with it, and shines so bright.

It's a rock that's helped me a lot, and I'd like to imagine that I could share it with you now, and hold on to it whenever it might help to know a stranger is thinking hopeful thoughts for you.

Sending best wishes and positive vibes your way. I hope things work out for the best for you.

You know... Sad as it is, I think that it means something truly great that you two could make that decision and remain in such good terms. I hope you two will at least remain that kind of friends for good -- I have been there, and I know how much of a difference that can make, thank heavens.
Good luck and great deeds in whatever comes next, Ursula!